He told Shaikh that he really liked the app and that he wants to get in touch with a couple of the women on it, but having lived in a conservative Muslim family, he said he didn't know how to write an email to a woman he didn't know."I said, listen, if you can't write an email to a girl, you can't get married to one," Shaikh says.Arif Shaikh, who was also at the gathering, says growing up he knew some Muslim kids who did date. "Muslim kids who are in relationships are more secretive than Navy SEALS," he says."They can do anything and they're completely un-traceable." Shaikh says the way his parents got married doesn't work for him, or a lot of young Muslims who have grown up here.Islam is easily the second-largest religion in the world.
Many Muslim scholars take pains to make it clear that local customs often influence the practice of the religion.He was born there too, but when he was 3, they all moved to the US.Growing up, when it came to dating, relationships and girls, Shaikh would experience one thing at home, another outside."The only evidence that they had that the other person existed before their marriage night was simply a small black-and-white picture and the good wishes of a couple of relatives," he says."That's all they knew." Shaikh's parents are Muslim and they lived in India at the time of their wedding back in the 1970s.