It’s fun for now, but in time you’ll probably feel disappointed. The more you get to know each other, the stronger your feelings. When Lexus Phillips was growing up as a self-identified queer black woman in Memphis, Tennessee, she had a distinct feeling of flying blind into relationships.Now I say that with the acknowledgement that we unfortunately exists within a system of inadequate sex education and services that burdens us to seek out our own information in the first place.With that being said, I urge young people in the information seeking process to be gentle with themselves—stepping out their comfort zone to have these conversations, but to the extent of what feels comfortable for them.” Advocate for healthy and balanced relationships.“There’s this dominant narrative of boy meets girls, they fall in love, and this is what it looks like.Often when LGBTQ youth are starting to date, have sex, and have relationships, there’s no role models in the community, school, or media, about what that even looks like,” she says.
Some things don’t have to be shared with the whole world.
In a healthy relationship both partners are able to express their desires and needs and both partners listen to what those needs are.
“We can often be so concerned with our partners that we forget our needs and desires,” says Lexus.
Dating Tip 5: Protect Yourself From Pressure Pressure is not love, and it’s not even normal.
Most teens say they’ve never felt pressured to be in a relationship before they were ready. Decide ahead of time what your values are and how far you want to go.