When he’s ready to socialize, he’ll do so without any prompting. “My first year in college, I fell madly in love with this girl named Elyse. I couldn’t imagine ever being with anyone else, and I thought she felt the same way about me. I used to spy on her around campus; some nights I’d stand outside her dorm just to see if she walked in the front door with anybody.“One day, out of the blue, she told me that our relationship was getting too serious, and that she wanted to date other people. My friends couldn’t stand to be around me, and I don’t blame them!But it will, and probably sooner than you think.” Do not use this opportunity to reveal how you never liked the newly insignificant significant other in the first place.Your son may be venting his rage at the girl who dumped him, but don’t be fooled. ” (or words to that effect) essentially implies that she does not have a right to her emotions.
“I understand how upset you are, and I know you may feel like your sadness is never going to go away.It will probably be some time before he abandons the hope that she’ll realize her mistake and come crawling back. However, blues that linger for more than a few weeks may warrant professional counseling.Remember, too, that teen relationships on the wane frequently flicker on again. Encourage him to get together with friends—but don’t nag.If you see schoolwork start to suffer and friendships fall by the wayside, it is reasonable to restrict the number of times Romeo and Juliet can rendezvous during the school week.High-school romances tend to have limited life spans.