Which is sort of like claiming that cell phones are a luxury for the rich and famous to have in their cars…
You fall prey to the tyranny of choice—the idea that people, when faced with too many options, find it harder to make a selection. Match knows what’s right for you—even if it doesn’t really know you.
In spite of all the technological hoohah, familiar patterns do prevail: empathy breeds intimacy, expectation alienates, safety fosters communication, silence inspires defensiveness, the more things change, the more they stay the same: The process of selecting and securing a partner, whether for conceiving and rearing children, or for enhancing one’s socioeconomic standing, or for attempting motel-room acrobatics, or merely for finding companionship in a cold and lonely universe, is as consequential as it can be inefficient or irresolute.
Lives hang in the balance, and yet we have typically relied for our choices on happenstance—offhand referrals, late nights at the office, or the dream of meeting cute.
Of course, some might even argue that social media was invented in the service of love – and not of the friendship variety – that the pool all of us Facebookers are swimming in is heart-shaped and has been from the beginning.
Be that as it may, The New Yorker published a lengthy, um, “profile” of the online dating world last week, looking not only at the major sites, but the people behind those sites (and their own dating histories).