As a society, we’ve come to welcome non-traditional family units.Majority of the time, it works out well and the parents involved raise children who go on to be productive citizens in the world. My relationship with my father was imperfect and strained.In some respect my parents’ relationship and not having my dad there full time actually helped me prepare for fatherhood in ways I couldn’t comprehend until I was this age.Once your late 20s-early 30s, being a relationship with a single mother is a serious possibility.The relationship that develops between a man and his child starts before the child is even physically in this world.Being a step-parent, you don’t have that historical connection.
There will be moments where you’ll have to play counselor and confidant. Sometimes, it can wear on a relationship when a child doesn’t feel free to express themselves.
There were stretches of time when he wasn’t around; either by his own volition or my mother protecting us from his disappointments. Having such an inconsistent father was my first example of what kind of father not to be.
The same rang true in my friends’ households and even strangers in the neighborhood. Over time, I have shaped my own ideas about fatherhood and how I want to parent my children.
First of all, you have to even find the time to date.
Some women have great relatives who push them to get back out there.